Monday, October 26, 2015

Should I start my child in Kindergarten this year? - Academic redshirting

Note: This article originally appeared on Parentsware.com in January, 2015. 


Should I start my child in Kindergarten this year?
The practice of academic redshirting in early childhood

Dr. Sarah M. Coyne

When my third child, Aidan, was born July 8th, one of the first thoughts that went through my mind was “Should I send him to kindergarten on time?” This was pretty ridiculous to be thinking for a child not even a day old. However, Aidan will be 5-years-old this July and is due to enter kindergarten later this year. So, all of a sudden the decision has become very real.
Holding back children from entering kindergarten on time is known as “academic redshirting”. This practice has been increasing for a number of years, with more and more parents choosing to wait to send their 5-year old to kindergarten. The practice is more common for boys who have summer birthdays (like my Aidan), and in children who come from white, higher socio-economic families (Bassock & Reardon, 2013). Parents report redshirting to give their child an advantage in life in terms of popularity, sports, academics, and more, especially for those who may appear immature during preschool. However, research shows that children who end up getting redshirted actually score better on academic measures than their peers in preschool. There was also NO relationship with developmental concerns. This one baffled me as it means that the “smarter” kids are the ones that are actually being held back, suggesting that many parents have other motives than just helping a “slower to mature” child catch up (Bassok, & Reardon, 2013).
This year Aidan has been in preschool. Literally, every single other boy in his class was old enough to go to kindergarten last year, making Aidan more than a year younger than every other boy in his class (and almost two years younger in some cases!) So now panic mom mode sets in – Aidan will be SO young compared to all the other kids! He’ll be smaller! Maybe he won’t do as well academically? Maybe he won’t fit in as well? Maybe he won’t be as good at sports? Maybe he’ll get bullied? What if this one decision to send him sets him up for a spiral of academic failure for the rest of his life?????
So I did what every reasonable mom does – post a message on Facebook asking other parents advice. Immediately, I got dozens of responses. Parents feel very strongly both ways. Many lauded the benefits for their own children – they reported that they seemed to do better socially, academically, and were the biggest kids so had advantages in sports. Others spoke of being the youngest in their grade and the benefits they saw. So in sum, Facebook (not surprisingly), left me feeling more confused than ever.
I called Aidan’s preschool teacher next. She said that Aidan would likely be ready for kindergarten by the fall and would probably do just fine. There were a few minor concerns about how shy he can be, though, so she also said it wouldn’t hurt him to hold him back another year. So again, kind of a split decision.
So I did what I always do – turn to the research. I’m a child development scholar and do research for a living and feel there is great value in knowing the real studies on any given topic. I read many different studies and then actually did my own research with some data we have. My own data involves our Flourishing Families study which follows 500 adolescents from when they were 10 years old until they were 18 years old. I wanted to find out how the youngest in each grade fared compared to the oldest (who were redshirted). What I found fascinated me. I’ve summarized it below for you.


To redshirt?
There is a definite advantage that first year of kindergarten. Kids who are redshirted do better academically in a number of different areas, including reading, spelling, vocabulary, etc (Bickel, et al., 1991; Jones et al., 1990;Huang et al., 2012;  Langer et al., 1984). However, these benefits start to diminish by the end of kindergarten (Huang et al., 2012) and almost completely disappear by the 3rd grade (Stipek, 2002). My own research revealed that the oldest kids in each grade reported going through puberty earlier than their peers. There are some advantages to being an early maturing boy (in terms of popularity and sports), but there are also some problems as detailed later. And being an early maturing girl can be very hard on children (just ask my friend Mindy Taylor who was nearly 6 feet tall in the 6th grade!) I know many parents are concerned about their child playing sports, but I couldn’t find any research that addressed this particular issue. We do know that early maturing boys do tend to do better at sports, so there will be an indirect link at the very least.

Or not to redshirt?
A number of studies suggest that children who start earlier and who benefit from a stimulating school environment actually gain a valuable head start in terms of cognitive development (e.g., Mayer & Knutson, 1999; Vygotsky, 1978). Indeed children who start school later may miss out on very beneficial early childhood experiences provided by schools (Karweit, 1988; May et al., 1994). Children who do seriously struggle may actually benefit from that early year of intervention offered by many schools, compared to those who wait to get help. This only works if your child doesn’t go to a crappy school, so that is definitely something to consider.
There are also some advantages to being younger. Research shows that those boys with summer birthdays (who are NOT redshirted) end up with higher wages in adulthood (Angrist & Krueger, 1991; Lincove & Painter, 2005), as they gain an extra year in the workforce. An examination of my own data found some very interesting patterns. Remember, this is across 8 years and involving a large group of adolescents. The youngest children in the class showed higher levels of hope, prosocial behavior, integrity and gratitude. And the strongest finding of all revealed that they were more likely to be engaged in school during the high school years (emotionally, behaviorally, and cognitively), suggesting that older children tend to “check out” a little earlier. Not helpful for those college entrance exams.
I also found NO differences at all between the groups in terms of GPA during middle school and high school, whether they were bullied, anxiety level, empathy, self-esteem, shyness, perseverance, or leadership skills. These are all things that parents who redshirt their children describe as reasons why they hold their children back, but there appears to be no evidence of a relationship. Indeed, the research does “not support the widespread use of [redshirting] for increasing readiness” (Graue & DiPerna, 2000; p. 509) as there are no documented long term advantages in life.
A number of studies also show some negative outcomes for those who are the oldest in the class, including behavioral problems and aggression (Byrd et al., 1997). Indeed, my own data from Flourishing Families consistently revealed that the oldest children in each age group were more likely to be physically aggressive, depressed, and become involved in delinquent behavior.


My decision
After doing all this research, my husband and I have confidently decided to send Aidan to kindergarten next year. We have to lower our expectations that first year as his peers will do better than him. And I’ve decided that’s okay. By 3rd grade it will all have evened out and I don’t think Harvard will be looking at his kindergarten reading skills. I’ve also decided I don’t really care if he’s the captain of the football team his senior year in high school, as it is possible he won’t be the biggest kid in his class. That doesn’t motivate me in the slightest. Besides, tennis is a much better sport anyway! ;) I’ve decided that I don’t want Aidan to do well in life because he just happens to be older and stronger than his peers. I want him to do well because he learns to work hard, to truly care and to empathize with others, and to never, ever give up.
After doing all this research, I’m actually troubled by this increasing trend. No matter what, somebody always has to be the youngest. However, we are now seeing an almost 2 year age gap in some classes. This isn’t fair to the teacher who has to manage so many different ages and it’s not fair to the kids (both the oldest and the youngest ones). I just wonder when it will stop. For example, most children would do REALLY well in kindergarten if we all started them at 10 years old. They would definitely be the biggest and the strongest kids in school. They would definitely be the smartest. That doesn’t mean we should do it. There is such a culture of hyper-competitiveness of parents in America right now and I think the practice of redshirting to give children a supposed advantage in life is fueling this way of thinking.
Now before you go crazy on me, I do think there are legitimate reasons for not sending your child to kindergarten on time. Countless studies show that there are some serious consequences to repeating a grade, even at younger ages (Hauser, 2000; Holmes, 1989). So, if you are concerned that your child will fail kindergarten – seriously fail it, then that is a great reason to wait that extra year. However, anecdotally, most parents who redshirt their children do not do it for this reason.

Conclusion
This post will probably make a lot of people upset, as I know a lot of parents redshirt their children. We all are doing what we think is best for our children, and there is no shame in that. This decision is driven by love and caring, and that is a good thing. However, I wanted to show you the actual research on the topic in case some of you are in the same position I am in right now. Let’s all become better informed on the topic and not to decide to hold back our children, just because “everyone else is doing it”. That adds a peer pressure to my parenting that I simply don’t need.  Many people told me to follow my gut – which is what I did…..after reading the real research.


Monday, March 30, 2015

March comes in like a lion and goes out like a lamb

As many of you know, the month of March has been a pretty difficult one for my family. I wanted to update you on the situation and my thoughts over the last few weeks. However, I feel like I've cried FAR more this semester than I would like, so didn't want to break down yet again in front of you all! So, I thought I would share my feelings here.

Nona is still alive (at almost 3 weeks!) Her parents were able to take her home from the hospital which is amazing news. She has a feeding tube which is giving her a lot of trouble, but she is doing okay. We don't know what the future will hold or how long she will be with us, but every single day is a gift.

This is how my sister announced her birth on Facebook. They both love Chaco's and my brother in law made Nona a tiny pair so she could match her parents. 



Thank you so much for your prayers over the past few weeks. I have felt them. When we last spoke I mentioned how angry I was. I've never done this, but I turned all the lights off in my bathroom and just yelled at God. How unfair this whole thing was. How ridiculous this life is. Why he would make us go through this? Why would he do this to my sister? And on and on. 

I didn't feel comfort at all. Just anger and pain. This went on for a few days. 

I came to work later that week and my wonderful grad student, Kevin had put some flowers in my office and left me a beautiful note. On the note he put this quote from Lord of the Rings (there is your media moment for today!)

Frodo: I wish the Ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened.
Gandalf: So do all who live to see such times, but that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. 

For the first time, I allowed my heart to be softened. I went to a meeting with my head of department who also has been through very difficult times. He gave me some excellent advice. I went back to my office to pray and instead of yelling, asked for comfort, inspiration, and to accept God's will. 

I then went to a faculty meeting. My mind began to wander and I thought of my biggest idea yet for a research study. An idea that is still taking shape, but one that I think will be the best thing I have done professionally. 

An idea for a research study is not what I asked for. But I think that God gives us strength and inspiration in many different contexts when we go through hard times. I think this idea was an answer to a prayer and the kind of research HE wants me doing right now. It's an insane feeling, one I haven't really had before in a professional context. But I feel compelled to do this (I can't tell you what it is yet, but I think it's going to be amazing!)

I went home that night, a little confused, but feeling very inspired and loved. I prayed again for comfort which I still hadn't received. Instead I got the strong prompting to go the temple. I went the next morning and when I walked in the door I was prompted to do sealings. I thought this was weird because I usually go with Paul but decided to follow the Spirit. 

While in the sealing room, the Spirit was stronger than I had ever felt it. I was able to act as a proxy for daughter after daughter after daughter who was being sealed to her parents. I looked in the mirrors that reflect each other and truly felt I could feel eternity. I weeped as the spirit bore testimony to me that once again, families are forever. This life is NOT the end. And importantly, this was God's will and my sister and her family were going to be okay. It was going to be harder than anything they have ever been through....but we were going to come out stronger than before. I was given visions of eternity that feel too sacred for me to share here. I have never felt the Spirit so strong or felt so loved in my entire life as in that moment. 

Since then, I have been on somewhat of a spiritual high. Things are still hard. I still get angry and sad from time to time. But I feel like God has such a bigger plan for us all, one that I cannot even begin to comprehend. He loves us so much. We signed up for this life, even knowing just how difficult it can be. I have such a strong testimony of these facts, and I'm sure I will be holding tightly on to them in the future. Thanks again for your love and prayers. 

Monday, March 23, 2015

This is 40....

Well, I just popped myself up a giant tub of popcorn and turned on the TV. Sometimes I should really listen to my own lectures.....but it's just so goooood!

In other news, Paul and I watched the movie "This is 40" on TV (edited) over the weekend. Oh heavens. The characters were pretty much me and Paul (though crazier and meaner). So many of the conversations they had, we have had. My personal favorite was the toilet scene. The mom likes to run and is really concerned about the effect of media on her kids. They even look like us just a little bit. And it's all about transitioning into your 40s, which heaven help me, is not too far away! The woman was freaking out about turning 40 but then decided just to have "joy" and live in the moment. Which I think is great. When I was a kid I thought 40 was SO OLD. Most of you are in your early 20s and are probably thinking the same thing! But I will actually BE in my 40s in just a couple of years. Which, if you ask my grandma, is still pretty darn young :)


Monday, March 2, 2015

Chicken Little Saves the Day!

This was really cute.

Last week I was having a rough day. I had a killer day at work and then a killer day at home. I had just put the kids to bed and was lying on my bed, kind of lethargically. My eldest, Nate, came in and asked what was wrong. I told him I had just had a really bad day and was tired. He started scratching my back (which is what I do for him when he is sad) and gave me a big hug and said, "you know what, mom? Today was only one day. And it's over. And tomorrow is a totally new day and you get to start all over!" I was super impressed by his insight and asked him why he thought of that. His answer: Chicken Little (the movie).




Well, wherever the source, this message totally made my day. I gave him a hug and walked him to his room, tucked him in again and gave him a kiss. He smiled and said, "I think I should give you a pep talk every night". Definitely, kid. Definitely.

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

TV shows for couples?

One of the (many) ways that Paul and I bond is through the media. I'm not kidding when I tell you that The West Wing is almost sacred in our family! (P.S. If I haven't sold you on it yet, did I tell you that Gus from Psych got his big start on this show? Well....now you know. Reasons 945 to check out this most awesome show ever)


We've watched many a good show together, with some favorites being Gilmore Girls, Friday Night Lights, Seinfeld, Friends, House, Grey's Anatomy, The Good Wife, and more. But we are on a super lull....we've tried out a few shows recently and are struggling to find something that we BOTH like. I can only tolerate so many "car shows"  and "shows about food" and he just couldn't really get into "Scandal" (seriously....the most trashy show I watch! I need to rethink my entire life). So I'm turning to you - wise audience that you are - for some suggestions. What are some TV shows you've seen that are fun to watch as a couple? 

Thursday, January 22, 2015

Babies in movie theaters?

My husband and I went to see the movie Interstellar last week. It was pretty good (though about an hour too long!) It had been a very long time since we've actually seen a movie in the theater so we were pretty excited! It was a Friday night and theater was packed.

Enter......young mom with a baby. Both Paul and I looked at each other and sighed.

Now I have nothing against babies. I have a baby. I really like him. But I didn't pay for a babysitter for my kids so I could listen to YOUR baby cry during the movie.

About 20 minutes into the movie, the baby started fussing. The mom tried to comfort the kid but no go. She kept on trying and still no go. After about 10 minutes (which felt REALLY long!) she took the baby to the back of the theater. Where the baby STILL kept fussing. And fussing. And fussing. After another 10 minutes, she finally left.


I understand that this young mother probably needed a break, which is why she went to the theater. However, I don't think she got a very good break. And she disturbed the entire theater for a good chunk of the movie. I also don't know why she picked a Friday night showing. If you want to bring your baby to a movie you could try an afternoon showing where there would be hardly anyone there. Your crying baby is just fine in church. A quiet movie theater? Not so much. And I SWEAR that this is a Utah thing, because in the 7 years we lived in England we NEVER saw a baby in a movie theater, unless it was a kid show.

I would love to know your thoughts on this. Do babies belong in movie theaters? Yay or Nay?

Friday, January 16, 2015

Good times with Téa

I've been really getting into the show Madam Secretary lately. My husband says he pretty sure it was made just with me in mind. This is why I love it!

1. Strong, powerful, moral female lead character
2. Intellectual dialogue and topics
3. NOT trashy!
4. About politics, which is something I'm very much interested in now (thank you West Wing!)


It stars Téa Leoni who is FANTASTIC. This made me want to rewatch one of my favorite movies, The Family Man. It came from Netflix last night and my husband and I watched it even though I was dead tired after work. Apart from one sketchy shower scene that definitely earns it's PG-13 rating, I would highly recommend this! It is very rare in today's media that traditional family values, such as marriage and children, are emphasized this much. It makes me stop and realize what REALLY is important in my life. It all comes down to family. Without my family, I would be nothing. Especially without Paul, who is my rock, my equal, and the love of my life. 


So thank you Téa for some good times lately - they almost make up for ruining my life in Jurassic Park 3 :)